Question of The Day: Friendship!

So today's question by @motivationMY is:

"Do you find a friendship more meaningful if there's more togetherness and face-to-face interactions?"


My answer was not necessarily. I have many awesome and spectacular friends, who really support me in my time of need. I think it's more important to have that chemistry and connection rather than seeing each other everyday but do not even have the chemistry. I also have friends whom I see on a daily basis, but honestly, those that I don't see everyday, for some reason, have been better friends to me. :)

In friendship, nothing is more important to me, than support. Supporting your friend in times of need, is priceless and definitely worth more than time. No matter how busy you are, you can choose to not meet your friend if it's just some random meet-up (but obviously don't wait longer than a year!), but when your friend is in need, you should technically drop everything and support him/her or comfort him/her. I have a relatively short story to tell:

I have this friend, and till this day, although we RARELY meet, I'm quite proud to call her my best friend :) Her name is Evonne Siew and the reason why I gave the answer I gave, is cos at one point in time, we actually didn't meet for approximately 5 years. But when we met up, we didn't feel any awkwardness, and we immediately picked up from where we left off. She has been amazing to me. And I know I'm not her one and only best friend, and neither is she mine. But we know that no matter what, we will always be there for each other, and our catch-up sessions are always amazing!

And then there's my other best friend, Siew Mei. Just as loving, and thoughtful and caring, and another point to note is that, we don't see each other often either. But again, just like Evonne, when we meet up, there's no awkwardness, and the catch-up sessions are always amazing too! :)

I would like to point out that not all friends are like this. It just so happens that both my besties are friends whom I don't get to meet that often. Sometimes, you do feel alone, but when you are reminded that they are just an SMS/Call/Twitter/Facebook message away, then you won't feel alone anymore. I always believe in "quality over quantity", which is why I'm able to maintain friendships with these amazing people and I don't have to worry about awkwardness after a long period of time, or worry about them having other friends. I mean, I don't expect them to wait for me, nor I them. It works both ways, with mutual trust and understanding. I believe, that these are friends which will be with you till the end of days. I really love them so much.

Friendship is and can be a very sensitive subject. Many friends drift apart. It doesn't matter how many friends you have, but it's the ones that last that really counts. And similar to looking for your eternal partner in life, I believe in this quote: It takes for you to find the wrong one, to know you've found the right one.

I think that friendship can be very objective, so you would have to discuss this with your friend. Do take note that not all friends can accept the "not-meeting-often" policy. Nothing is better, than plain open honest discussion! So if you have a friend that you really cherish, just open up your heart, because the worst thing that could happen, is that you find out that he/she wasn't the right one. Then you move on, and find a better friend. :)

Love, Sheryl1986 <3